Question to Sanctified People: 

I lived a life of fornication in the past. I have slept with many men. I have also had many abortions. Can God bless me with a God ordained husband and bless me with children and a home of my own? 

Word from Sanctified People: 

This question was sent about a year ago. I encouraged the wonderful lady in Christ but the question has never left my mind. This type of question requires that final answer that will allow one to move on in life without self condemnation but with freedom and power in Christ. I pray that this word blesses many women, and men too, that need that assurance from God. 

Come now, and let us reason together, saith the LORD: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool. Isaiah 1:18 

God has forgiven you dear sister in Christ. The blood of Jesus speaks better things than the blood of Abel (or any other shed blood), Hebrews 12:24. 

From the moment you humbled yourself and cried out in repentance for forgiveness, God has forgiven you. God has forgiven you of all your sins, blotted out the handwriting of spiritual and physical decrees that were and are against you and took them out of the way, nailing them to the cross. God has spoiled spiritual principalities and powers and Jesus has made a show of them openly triumphing over them. Colossians 2:13-15. 

Let's look at the background of abortion in a spiritual biblical view and how God dealt with the issue. 

As I was reading my bible this month, I read the story of King Manasseh of Israel in 2 Chronicles 33. I felt the strength and power of God from this chapter.

King Manasseh was a wicked, sinful king who made his children pass through the fire. Making one's sons and daughters pass through the fire is a term used in the bible many times to describe giving children as burnt human sacrifice to a pagan god. In our present times, that's what we call abortion. In the times of the kings of Israel, a parent would literally give their child (especially a male) as a burnt human sacrifice to the god Molech, Chemosh, Baal and any other psgan god they worshipped. This was one of the highest form demon of worship that would yield quick and tangible results especially in giving one success and prosperity. We see in 2 Kings 3, king Joram of Moab gave his son as a burnt offering on the city wall so that Moab would prevail against Israel. 

Abortion is sacrificing the lives ones children in order to have a better life or maintain the current life that one is living. Sacrificing a child because one feels that the child(ren) will interfere with how life is now or will prevent them from achieving something in life. 

One lady said "The modern woman sacrifices her children so she can further her career, look desirable to whatever end, stay in a relationship with a man without "being tied down" with the responsibility of raising a child."

There has never been a worse lie from the devil than this: to have parents sacrifice the lives of their children. The bible says that children are a blessing. In my experience as a single mother, a child brings deliverance and blessings in ones life. So for the devil to lie to a parent to have an abortion is to delay their deliverance from a life of sin or hinder the deliverance completely.

When God gives you a child, He deems you worthy of such a calling as parenting. He sees good in you and knows that if you trust and believe in Him, He will deliver and bless you, your children and the next generations. God is capable of taking a sinful situation, forgive you, cleanse you, deliver you and bring a miracle out of it. 

It's the same thing in this situation; God is able to take your broken pieces as a woman in need of forgiveness and healing, and He is able to forgive you, cleanse you, deliver you and bring a miracle out of it.

Yes, God can bless you with a God ordained husband and bless you with children and a home of your own.

The story of King Manasseh shows that he did a lot of evil. Let's look at the wicked things he did: 

He built again the high places for pagan gods which Hezekiah his father had broken down, and he reared up altars for Baalim, and made groves, and worshipped all the host of heaven, and served them.

He also built pagan altars in the house of the Lord. And he built altars for all the host of heaven in the two courts of the house of the Lord.

And he caused his children to pass through the fire in the valley of the son of Hinnom: also he observed times, and used enchantments, and used witchcraft, and dealt with a familiar spirit, and with wizards: he caused much evil in the sight of the Lord, to provoke him to anger.

And he set a carved image, the idol which he had made, in the house of God. So Manasseh made Judah and the inhabitants of Jerusalem to err, and to do worse than the heathen, whom the Lord had destroyed before the children of Israel.

The Bible describes him as a very wicked and evil person. He did not heed to God's warning when God sent His prophets to warn him. Therefore, God brought the king of Assyrian against the children of Israel. King Manasseh was taken by the Assyrian king put in thorns and bound with fetters and was carried to Babylon.

When King Manasseh was in affliction, he besought the Lord his God, and humbled himself greatly before God and prayed unto him. God was moved by his entreaty and listened to his plea. 
God forgave him and brought him back from  captivity. 

This is my message to you. God is listening to your humble sincere repentance. "A broken and contrite heart, He does not despise." Psalms 51:17.

Repentance is realising your sin, genuinely asking for forgiveness from God and turning completely from the said sin. Repentance is not a mere "I'm sorry" apology to God, it's turning away from that sin. If it's difficult to turn away, seek deliverance and keep working through the issue until you are completely free and the sin looses it's appeal to you. When you are completely free from a sin, you no longer desire to do that sin and you hate it. (You do not hate the sinner but the sin).

For you to want God's standard of holiness is a good thing. Before God, we are all filthy sinners in need of His forgiveness and grace. So many people in your position would have given up on God and just continue in a life of sin and end up in hell. But your courage and trust in God makes you know that surely there's hope for you. There's hope for many people deep in sin. 

Believing that you have been forgiven and living in the freedom and power of your forgiveness can be difficult to accept. God's standards are high and it is true we are the worst of sinners. This can become a snare for many people as they become gripped in shame and guilt, and some people never move on. But Jesus tells us to cast our burdens and cares upon Him. He is able to lead you and carry you through. 

God knows the genuineness in your heart. You cannot lie to Him nor to yourself. Whenever you go before Him in prayer, tell Him everything including your fears. 

The devil will try to plant thoughts of doubt, self hate and condemnation, self pity and guilt. This happens to a person who is trying to move on into another level of spiritual growth and maturity. He will tell you any lie to keep you from moving forward and from going for your blessings in the Lord. 

But we know as the bible describes the devil; he is a deceiver and an accuser of brethren (Revelations 12:9-10). The devil lays on you things and sins which you even have not committed and makes you guilty of them. He's a liar. Cast him and those thoughts out. 

Say, "Spirit of fear, condemnation (say what you're feeling) I bind you right now with hot chains dipped in the blood of Jesus. Come out now, in Jesus name. You have no authority in my life. Come out now in Jesus name!"

Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ; 2 Corinthians 10:5 

Another powerful way to attack the devil is to use the sword of the spirit, which is the word of God as one of the weapons in spiritual warfare. Print out bible verses about being washed by the blood of Jesus and the forgiveness of sins. Read them and speak them out into the spirit during your prayer times. Apply them to yourself by saying, "I'm forgiven and washed by the blood..." The spirit realm hears and responds and each every day you will be getting closer and closer to your reassurance till finally, you will be walking in victory. 

Read out the bible verses everyday and tell God to open your eyes to see, feel and be able to live in His forgiveness and grace. 

Walk in your freedom dear sister in Christ, knowing that God has forgiven you. Be willing and ready to be led by Him.

WHERE ARE ALL THE GOOD GODLY GUYS/LADIES??

Proverbs 31:10 "Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies."!

A friend once asked me, "It seems like worldly men are really good looking, I mean like when you walk around in malls and see all the guys, they're 'cute'. But you know, they're worldly men. Are there men of God that are good looking with that allure of character and looks that the worldly men seem to have going on for them? And where are such guys?"

First I laughed. Hard. Not at the question but at the genuinity of it because it's so real. I've lost count on the number of times single women have asked me about who, when, how they're going to get married. It's a sincere matter to them, and to me too. Most of the time single women (and men) are saying they're waiting for a Godly spouse but they're lost between genuinely yearning for God and falling for the outside worldly pressures.

I told my friend yes. Yes, God has those type of men and women on his side too. Yes, there are handsome, 'cute' as some women put it, clean shaven and well groomed, good scented and well outfitted men of God.

But why are we focusing on the physical?

Let's look at what God's Word says

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Proverbs 31:30

But the Lord said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance (face), or on the height of his stature (height and build); because I have refused him: for the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart. 1 Samuel 16:7 

Clearly, my friend needed a mindset renewal. Because, all that concern on the physical doesn't really matter anyway. It's the God in your God ordained husband that will draw you him. Not his looks or what he's doing. God in that person will draw you to him. Meaning that, you also have to be in God to be found by your God ordained husband. And when I say 'God in that person', we're not saying that the very moment you notice him, he has to be speaking in tongues, prophesying, casting and binding devils, preaching, singing and dancing for God, or laying prostrate on the church floor bubbling in the Spirit. No, not necessarily. Some people can put up a spiritual show because they know a gullible, desperate person will be drawn in by such displays.

When Anna and Simeon met Jesus, He was just a baby. Jesus hadn't performed any miracle yet, he hadn't gone out to preach yet. He was just a baby. Yet they knew that they were in the presence of the Messiah. Mary and Joseph didn't come in the temple with pomp and glamour. In fact they were poor. They wouldn't get noticed in most of today's prosperity gospel charismatic churches. Mary and Joseph had with them their turtle doves offering which was an offering poor people could afford. Simeon and Anna noticed the Messiah because the glory of God was on Him, and they burst out in prophesy and thanksgiving.

A husband will not always appear like a good looking guy to everyone. And I don't mean he'll be some ugly, dirty, stinking man who needs a lesson or two on hygiene and style, what I mean is he will surpass the physical outlook. Just like Moses, He will "shine" because of the glory of God on him, not necessarily because of how handsome he is. And those who are in that level will see God in him.

I always like to use the story of King David and the story of Ruth to elaborate this situation. Where were these two characters when they were noticed and chosen? It was God in David that had him chosen and anointed by Samuel. It was God in Ruth that had her get noticed and favoured by Boaz. Same with Queen Esther, it wasn't just her looks but the glory and favour of God on her.

Now let's look at the question again and refocus it. Where is the God ordained husband and where is the God ordained wife?

Even the bible asks it in Proverbs 31:10 "Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies."!

The truth of the matter is that these virtuous women and the men of valour are hidden. Your God ordained husband or wife is hidden/covered by God. That is why for all single mothers I talk to, I always tell them they've got to be covered and hidden by God as a protection from God to deter the attacks of the devil. When in fornication, women are left uncovered and never covered spiritually. You need to get covered and be aware of that covering.

Psalm 91 isn't just a psalm about protection from thieves and accidents. It's a psalm showing the protection of God in all areas of our. When someone tells me (with a smirk and a sense of accomplishment) that they get contacted and asked out by many men or that they attract certain types of men, my question is, "Why are you exposed? Why are you not in the secret place of the Almighty under His wings?"

Circumstances in life that you think are a disadvantage, will hide you. When God chose David, he was hidden in the pastures shepherding and having personal hidden victories overcoming lions and bears. When God chose Gideon to save Israelites from the Midianites, Gideon was hidden, the lowest in his family. Mary mother of Jesus was a humble woman. Ruth was in the special groups category, an alien (stranger/foreigner), lower than a poor Israelite widow woman.

God hides His precious things. That's His nature. It is also revealed in creation; precious stones are hidden underneath the earth. Just imagine you can be standing on the ground and just beneath it, there are precious stones of great value and worth! And in order to get the precious stones, you have to dig and find them. You have to find their 'hiding place' and dig them out. But why does God hide people? He hides them for many reasons.

First of all, and truly for God, He would rather a person fulfills the assignment he/she was created for and goes to heaven and escapes eternal damnation, than for that person to get married to a person who is a stumbling block. Marriage is a very beautiful institution created by God, but it is not everything. God does not see either state of marriage or singlehood as one being better than the other. He can use either a marriage or singlehood in accordance to His plan to fulfil His will. None is better than the other. That's not to say that one shouldn't desire marriage especially if they desire a Godly marriage. Infact for single Christian men and women who want to marry, it's commendable to desire a Godly marriage. God is pleased when you take a concern of such magnitude to Him because it shows you trust Him and want to marry within His will and laws.

God also hides people so that they're not discovered by the wrong people who will be stumbling blocks.

He hides people so that they can maintain intimacy with Him and so that they can FIND and be FOUND by their God ordained spouses and continue living their God ordained lives.

Where does God hide them? He hides them in His secret place! They are under the shadow of the Almighty, He covers them with his feathers, under his wings, Psalm 91:1-4. 

The secret place is a place of holiness and sanctification, honour, a place of an intimate relationship with God. A place of truth in your inner being, whereby you cannot lie to God or to yourself. A place of being totally sold out to God not because of what He gives you or does for you, but for just who He is: Holy. A place where you cast down your crown, cease to exist, and only Him and His will matters.

People in the secret place know that they are hidden and they choose to remain there under the will of God. For them to be reached (in this case of marriage that we're discussing), one has to ascend to that secret place of God to reach them!

These type of hidden people do not approach anyone unnecessarily for a  relationship of "let-me-date-you-and-see-how-this goes-then-we-can-get-married-if-things-work-out". The truth of the matter is, dating for years is not necessary when you're hidden in God. God will speak and confirm to you when you find your God ordained spouse. All you will do is court the person as God is confirming to you the situation. Abraham's servant knew Rebecca was Isaac's appointed wife through God's confirmation. He prayed and God answered. You do not have to date but to court. One good pointer is if the person is within God's will, you can proceed to ask God about him/her. If the person is not within God's will for you, don't bother. Don't bother asking God about a fornicative person. God cannot give you a fornicator for a husband or wife. If you ask God for a spouse, be prepared to live in holiness and purity because that is God's parameter.

People who are hidden by God know that it is the work of God to ordain and provide a spouse for them of equal measure. These hidden people are not anxious,  counting down years and being bitter as they complain that they are the last in their group of friends in the marriage race. They present their requests to God and trust Him to work in His perfect will, Philippians 4:6. The devil, however, can hinder a Godly marriage from a person and in such a situation a person will require deliverance. Satan can hinder a Godly marriage because he knows it will be a powerful testimony that will lead many to Christ in joyful hope.

Hidden people are busy working on their God given assignments and responsibilities that they have no desire for unnecessary things in their lives. Being in the perfect will of God is what matters to them, including praying according to the will of God for their ordained spouses. God vigilantly covers and hedges in these people so tightly that nothing that God hasn't allowed will penetrate their covering. Just like the case of Job, the devil told God, "You have covered this fellow so tightly, I went round his hedge, there's absolutely no doorway!" (paraphrased).

And God informed the devil that yes, Job chooses to be covered and does what God requires to remain in the covering of God.

One of the reasons one does not find those good and precious elusive men or women is because it may be not your time yet. And God will let you know it and He will give you the grace to carry on in the wait with thanksgiving and without anxiety. You will need to be doing the assignment that God has for you at the moment waiting in joyful hope.

Another reason you may not find or be found is you might be a threat to the hidden men and women of God, a stumbling block. You pray for a very high quality spouse, and that is good thing to ask for because God wants the same for you, but the problem is you may not be the high quality person to the person you are asking for, you are a stumbling block. Isaiah 57:14 "...Prepare the way, Take the stumbling block out of the way of My people.” 

The reason you are a stumbling block is because you refuse to be prepared by God. God is preparing you or wants to prepare you, to enable you to get ready for that man or woman. He wants to prepare man or woman so that you can be able to notice them. A prepared heart is a heart that is receptive to the Lord's leading and instruction. One that is able to hear God say, "There is what you are looking for". You may see a precious stone laying on the ground but because you do not know how to detect the properties of the precious stone, you will just pass it. A precious high quality man or woman prepared by the Lord has Godly properties.

Stay on God's altar as He prepares you for a Godly marriage. Let God take you through deliverance from things that can cause you anguish in future. One thing for sure, get deliverance from fornication. This is the number one hindrance to a God ordained marriage. It's a process and a journey, but one which you will appreciate as God takes you through it. I must say that it's not easy but it's worth it. It will save you a lot of trouble in your marriage in future. God will walk with you closely throughout this journey; leading you, guiding you and covering you for good things ahead.